Best Friends For(n)ever
I don’t believe that friends last forever. There’s always that one button they can push, which will push you to the edge, or the series of events they can cause and/or be a part of, causing you to realize that they’ve always been like this, and there is nothing you can do about it.
You cannot try to change someone in order for them to be your friend – or even change yourself for them, in hopes of them changing for you. Life just doesn’t work that way. You will have better luck ordering a plain hamburger from McDonald’s and hoping to receive what you ordered in return rather than a hamburger fully loaded. People aren’t like hamburgers, though. You can’t just take everything off of them, hoping they will taste the same as a real plain hamburger. If you’ve ever tried taking off all of the ketchup and mustard and onions from a hamburger, then you know that you can never do this perfectly, and you might as well just give up and either eat it or not eat it. You cannot change people, and people cannot legitimately change for you unless they want to change for themselves.
Of course, I’m not saying that you cannot believe any differently from what I believe, because this isn’t one of those blogs that you can’t state your opinion on – blah, blah, blah – but no one can change my opinions on this because I already think of them as facts. If you’d like me to go all scientific on you, my hypothesis has been proven right, and this is a courtesy of all of my past friendships, and even my friend’s and family’s friendships they have had. It takes a lot of observing, and a lot of mental notes were made.
What if friends were like books? Let’s say Oliver Twist is one of my least favorite books I have ever read, but it’s friends with Pretty in Pink, who is friends with For Sarah. For Sarah doesn’t like Oliver Twist at all, but Pretty in Pink will not be friends with For Sarah if she isn’t going to play nice and want to be friends with Oliver Twist. Because of this, Pretty in Pink decides she is not going to be friends with For Sarah.
…Bad analogy, but it’s a good example, I promise. Just ponder it for a bit, you know?
I’m not trying to sound really harsh here, but being clingy and holding on is pathetic and annoying, and talking about it for days and days is ridiculous. You cannot change people for yourself. Unless you are trying to change them for the better and they want to change, then you cannot do it. It is a selfish act that cannot be done merely because it is being done out of selfishness. That doesn’t mean you’ve no right to be sad and disappointed about the situation.
People change, but only if they want to. Sometimes they change without their realization, but it’s from peer pressure and/or their environment. Change often comes when we least expect it, and we’re always changing. We’re all on the same planet together, and because of that, we have to cling to change instead of clinging to the past.
Sometimes we have to be open for change and willing to pull out the weeds in order to grow and become better and healthier – inside and out.
Even though it’s often too difficult to rake the leaves and get your hands dirty, the end result is always the best part.
What would you rather see?