An open letter to the person who plagiarized, then bullied, me—and insulted my autism
In February 2016, I encountered a woman who copied my and my web designer’s source code. I reported her accordingly, much to her dismay. Recently, the incident has happened again. This time, however, I’ve been labelled a bully and stalker, and blamed for “harassing” her because I reported her again, which resulted in her host kicking her off.
I was then emailed by one of her friends about how I was in the wrong to report her. I explained how I wasn’t—quite professionally, actually—and that my right as an American citizen makes it okay for me to protect my intellectual property.
I decided to reply to one of her latest emails to me publicly, because this whole bullying thing needs to be addressed, as does the fact that the law is not situational and forever changing based on what one does or doesn’t have time for.
I want to start by saying thank you—thank you for providing such a challenging experience that had me laughing, rolling my eyes, groaning and flat-out crying. I am thanking you, because this experience restored my faith in the blog community. The way the blogosphere comes together when a fellow blogger has been harmed and is thus in need is amazing. At the end of the day, we’re all on the same team; there is simply a select few community members who think it’s okay to copy and steal and blog without integrity.
I shouldn’t despise it just because I’ve been stung by a few wasps.
I’ve decided to place text under headers, because perhaps then you can read it a little easier and will be able to understand my points better.
You’re on my radar
Ever since a few readers of my blog notified me of your website’s latest theme in February, you have been on my radar. Despite whether you wish to believe it, code may be copyrighted. Moreover, HTML and CSS together make up a creative work. There was a case in the Northern District of California with a US District court which found HTML and CSS to be protected by copyright.
Because you’re on my radar, I keep a close eye on your online activities for future (i.e. repeat) offenses. Additionally, I have Google Alerts set up, so I’m notified whenever someone links to me or mentions me/my blog name.
I’m not stalking you; I’m simply monitoring the content you post online for any defamatory or copied content regarding myself. My name is important to me. There have been people in the past who have posted cruel things in regards to my name, and I aim to protect myself and my blog, as well as anyone else whose content is stolen or name defamed (hence why I also notify others).
If you don’t want to be on my radar, you should stop linking to me, mentioning me, and stealing my content.
Protecting brand and blog integrity
A blog is one element of a brand. There are specific elements, such as patterns, people have come to identify me, as well as my blog, with—thus, altogether, my “brand”. The name of a blog does not necessarily correlate with the name of a website/brand. Sure, there are similar ways brands can stand out, but specific elements are what makes a brand. I spent much of 2015 researching everything I could find about branding, because it became a special interest.
I aim to protect mine, because the career I want and path I am on requires it.
I recommend investing in Regina’s brand identity workbook. It’s $7 and full of cool stuff.
The law does not change based on one’s opinion
The law also doesn’t change just because you “don’t have time” to read up on and familiarize yourself with it.
My decision to protect my rights does not make me a bully. Enforcing my Terms does not make me a bully. Protecting my brand and name does not make me a bully.
Intellectual property is commonly referred to as IP.
Many acronyms represent different words or phrases, even if/when sequenced together precisely the same.
“LOL”, for example, may be “Laugh Out Loud”, “Lots Of Love” or even “Land O’Lakes”.
Your jurisdiction’s explanation of what I’d need to do to get a protective/restraining order
Different jurisdictions have different processes. From what I’ve gathered, I can go to mine, which will then forward information on to yours.
However, for you to seriously email me all about how much harder it will be for me to get one—and to use this obstacle as a basis for your continuous insults and emails towards me after I have repeatedly told you to leave me alone—is utterly wrong. Why/How do you see nothing wrong with this?
For what it’s worth, I have a family who will protect me and do everything they can to help. I also have an entire community of bloggers at my disposal who are willing to help. Most importantly, I have a dad who is protective of me.
Before you give me a grammar/punctuation lesson—citing the college that is apparently teaching you it’s okay to plagiarize content, no less—you should learn proper sentence structure, grammar and punctuation, and how to make paragraphs instead of publishing great blocks of text.
- Purdue Owl: Commas
- Grammar Monster: What are clauses?
- Study.com: Clause: Definition & Examples
- Grammar Revolution: Sentence Structure
- Jakub Marian: Comma before ‘that’ and ‘which’
- Jakub Marian: Is ‘that’ always restrictive and ‘which’ non-restrictive’?
Protecting my rights, brand and name is priceless.
I would rather go through the trouble now than have the future cost of this fiasco add up. This way, I can spend money on things I care about—like autism research, food allergy research, bills, food and my special interests.
Dealing with this now also helps me prevent it from
- happening again in the future (since you didn’t get the memo the first time that I don’t tolerate this) and
- happening to someone else.
Regarding assumptions that I am trolling you
I’m not. I don’t know who is. I’m not the first person you’ve plagiarized, though.
I’m actually typically a peaceful protestor. I don’t like calling people out. I really like just waiting until things blow over. But you started threatening me with how you were going to do this and that, so I figured I needed to stop lollygagging and put an end to this.
Regarding your name-calling and incessant insults
You are over thirty (30) years old, insulting a 25-year-old. Am I really the one who needs to grow up? Am I really the one who is all those mean things you’ve called me?
Regarding my “self” and my “autistic self”
I am autistic. My autism cannot be separated from me.
Myself and my autistic self are one and the same.
To insult my autism is to go really, really low. You never fail to remind me how I know nothing about you(r character). What about now? To try to use my autism against me—as an insult—says everything I need to know about your character.
If you could care less
Can you please? Can you please care less about my site and I, and leave me alone? Can you leave my friends alone? We’re really annoyed and tired of this, and every time we finally think you’ve forgotten about this, you drag us back in to your messes and your drama and your ridiculous viewpoint of the law.
Perhaps what you’re trying to say is how you couldn’t care less…ya know?
Comments are open, if only to provide a space in which readers may share their personal experiences and/or support. Comments attempting to personally identify abuser(s) will be deleted. Abusive, degrading comments will be deleted. Threats will be reported to law enforcement who, from what I’ve gathered, will notify law enforcement in the offender’s jurisdiction of the report.
I welcome constructive criticism, but have a zero bullying policy. The safety of myself, my website and the readers of my website is important to me, hence why I will take necessary measures to ensure such safety.