I don’t hate being single.
That doesn’t mean I like/love it, either, though.
There are always problems with the guys I get into relationships with significant other-wise:
- they try to have with me what I have with another person
- they are still in constant contact with their ex
- they are still in love with their ex
- they see no problem with communicating with their ex
- they see no problem with going to their ex’s house (whom they still love, their ex still loves them, etc.), especially after I say, “Yes”, after they ask
- my list gets longer than this
We’ll start with “they try to have with me what I have with another person”.
Andy was really sweet – I’m sure he still is. We talk occasionally, but not so much. It’s really funny (in a non-funny way) how quickly two people can go from talking to someone almost all of the time to hardly talking to them at all. And even if you both agree to stay friends afterward, there’s always one person who isn’t mature enough to allow that to happen, no matter the circumstance1.
However, whilst in the truck (my dad’s truck because Andy couldn’t drive and neither could I; but Andy was older than me! WTH) my dad and I were talking. “Our thing” is going back and forth and trying to have the last word. My evil2 stepmother Kim only got to join in on it because hey, she’s in the family and married to my dad and that’s just kind of… I don’t know. She “passed the test” years ago. Sure, that sounds legitimate. BUT Andy joined in. Andy. joined. in. Andy joined in on me and my dad’s THING.
Sorry, but that’s a huge turn off for me. We were together for about four or five months. Then we dated a second time sort of, but I broke up with him again (after promising not to). I felt really bad for it, and I can’t even remember why I did it. However, he just seemed like more of a friend… I didn’t mean to break his heart. 🙁 There were also a few other things, but no need to embarrass him. One (not sure if this can be considered “embarrassing” or not) would be his clinginess and the need to be in contact with me (talking-wise or touching-wise) constantly really got on my nerves.
Unfortunately he’s one of the only guys who have ever seemed to have had feeling for me for me and not what I looked like. I went to his band banquet in this really revealing red dress that I unfortunately don’t have a picture of on this laptop (on my old one /: ; yet another thing to get off of it whenever I get enough patience to deal with it) that seemed to for some reason make him even more interested in me looks-wise (because in school I didn’t exactly wear tight clothes like everyone else).
That’s one relationship I do miss, though. I actually wouldn’t mind having it again. I look back at it now and just think, “I could have told him taking me and my dad’s “thing” bothered me. A few of the other things actually weren’t so bad,” because this next relationship I’m discussing is Chris3.
That took more words than I expected…
See ya next time 😉
also: not sure what to tag this; “significant other”, “SO”, “dating”… I want it to be more specific than “relationships” and a tag I can use in the future without having to result to something else, especially since I consider “dating” to be more like just that (dating) and not exactly a “relationship”, like a boyfriend, but I don’t want a “boyfriend” tag. Also don’t know if I should tag this as Andy… Because I don’t know what the future holds…
-.- I put too much thought into that up there ^. That’s what I mean by the over-analyzing everything thing.
…and category “Life” or category “General”? Shutting up now.