I’m being bullied by a 14 year old.

Catchy title, huh? Probably made you wanna click it to read more? Yeah, okay. Way to go, me.

For those of you just tuning in, I am vulnerable and have been for quite some time now. Actually, I think it began ever since the birth control. I’ve been suffering from depression. Not diagnosed, but I might as well be diagnosed with it. Seriously. I mean, anything – no matter its mass – is bringing me down.

I’m so sick of Isaac treating me the way he does. And if my mom asks about it, I can start talking and telling her what happened, and he just interrupts me: “No, no, no, stop it. Oh, my gosh. She’s just complaining about nothing.” Then she walks away.

It’s like she doesn’t care to hear my side. But she needs to, because it’s breaking me.

I went into the dining room a while ago and set up my laptop at the table, then sat down.

“Here are the rules: You don’t talk to me, you don’t look at me, you don’t make any noises, you don’t bother me and you definitely don’t tell on me or else you’ll regret it. No one wants you here, anyway, so shut up and just sit there and do us all a favor and don’t do anything.”

Isaac said that.

I’m twenty years old, and he lacks respect for me. I haven’t done anything to him for him to get to treat me like this!

He had the TV on some haunting show…

It said “green planet” next to a red dot in the right hand corner of the screen, so I laughed out loud and said, “Oh, my gosh. ‘Green planet?’ It’s a red dot.”

“Shut up. Remember what I said?” Isaac warned.

Me: Don’t talk to me like that. Leave me alone.

Isaac: (laughs) I don’t have to. No one will believe you.

Me: Leave me alone.

Mom: What’s wrong?

Isaac: Nothing, I was just joking around with her.

No. That is not joking. I am now sitting on Carrie’s bed typing up this blog, and I don’t know how I am supposed to explain this to my mom.

Yesterday I was talking to her about the birth control side effects, and Isaac just turned the TV up louder so I had to scream over him. 🙁 His words keep making me want to cry, but if I let it get to me, then I’m going to keep going down and down, and even further down than I already am.

I just finished straightening my hair five minutes ago.

I accidentally touched it against the left side of my neck for a few seconds. 🙁 That’s gonna hurt later. 😐

I’ll keep you all updated…

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Jennifer’s gravatar

You really need to make your mum listen. Or slap Cody across the face. That’s abuse and if you or your parents allow it to continue, he could grow up and abuse his girlfriends, wife, etc. It’ll only get worse and worse. I really recommend talking to your mum. FORCING her to listen if you have to. You can’t just let him get away with it because it could turn into something a lot worse.

If he turned up the TV or interrupts you then you need to do something about it. Turn off the TV, ask your mum to have him leave the room. You need to show your mother that this is a VERY serious matter. Not just for you, but for him too. You can’t give up.

I really hope this helps some.

Liz’s gravatar

@Jennifer,
Meh, I suppose forcing her to listen would get her to, but I did tell her. She said that she’ll talk to him and see what’s up,

Jennifer’s gravatar

Hopefully things will change then. He really shouldn’t treat you like that. 🙁

Aashni’s gravatar

I feel absolutely awful that you have to go through this! I wish I had known! You need to talk to your mom (which I guess you have done), and make sure she knows how much it’s bothering and affecting you. If she doesn’t listen, or if she can’t help, find someone else who can.

Ilila’s gravatar

Your brother – Cody’s your brother, right? – definitely needs someone to slap him on the face. That’s no way to treat another human being, let alone a member of the family (who’s older!). I’m amazed by the fact that your mom won’t intervene… I know I wouldn’t stand aside if one of my children mistreated a sibling, their father or another family member.

Lyndsay’s gravatar

I have a little sister who is kind of the same. She’s bullied me, but I don’t think it’s as bad as your brother because my sister isn’t angry or anything, she just wants control. Or if she’s in front of her friends she’ll try and bring me down to act cool, but that’s it really. Has he always been like this? It sounds a little odd if I’m honest. Maybe you’ve got to show him who’s boss? Like instead of listening to him and “obeying” him, you should tell him not to be so stupid. I would ask him what the hell was up. But I know it’s not that easy. 🙁
I hope you’re okay! 🙁 xxx

Stephanie’s gravatar

Liz, first you need to stand up to your brother. Raise you voice against him. Yell at him. He’s able to bully you because he speaks out strongly. You need to do the same. Next time he yells at you, you need to go in with a big, strong, “NO!” Then you can go on saying, “I am sick and tired of your bullying. I deserve better treatment than that.”

When your mom came in and asked what was going on, the one thing I would have done differently is say, “He’s wrong. There is something wrong.” Cody is currently “winning”, not because he’s right, but because he sees that you’re not standing up as strong as he is.

Liz’s gravatar

@Stephanie, But it’s really hard, because I don’t even get a chance to speak.

However, I’ve been ignoring him and doing the exact opposite of whatever he says… He’s tasting his own medicine now. I’m finally more confident for some reason – I don’t even know what. Ha. :3 Thank you, though.

But I did tell my mom, and since then she’s been catching a lot of what he’s saying. 🙂

Sandra’s gravatar

Yes, I do remember you 🙂 Thanks for the offer :D! I figured it mostly out, but if I do need any help I will let you know. <3

I agree with Jennifer, this blog made me cry. You'll have to try to get her alone and talk to her. And tell your doctor about the side effects of your birth control–it's not supposed to do that 😐 I hope he changes, I'd knock the shit out of him!

Gabi’s gravatar

I don’t have any younger siblings, and my older brother and I have gotten along wonderfully since we moved when I was in the fourth grade, so I don’t have any personal experience. But I have friends with troublesome siblings, and it’s not unusual for him to be like this. It doesn’t make it right, but it’s not uncommon.

I think it would help if you put your foot down or pretend that it doesn’t phase you while you’re in front of him. He’s probably feeding off the fact that you let it get to you. He knows you’ll break if he pushes, so he pushes. It’s sick, but that’s just how some people are, especially younger kids. It doesn’t help that your mom let’s him get away with it. If she won’t listen to you no matter what you do, find a way to record him. She can’t fight with hard evidence.

Ash’s gravatar

I am sorry that this is happening to you. I hope something happens.

Lavie’s gravatar

As what Jennifer said, force her to listen to you! Try to show that it’s serious, not just trying to get him in trouble or anything. To convince her also show her what he wrote to you, she should believe that! And has your mum already talked to him? I hope she does soon! D: And if she just asks him “Have you done or said anything to Liz?” he’ll probably just lie so you try to get her to be talking REALLY harshly and asking him “Did you do this? Did you do that?” and yeah.

Well I hope Cody stops bullying you and things turn out well for you! <3

Liz’s gravatar

Haha, I did actually end up telling her at least a portion about what I blogged about here, and she did listen. Since then it seems as though she’s actually catching him in the act now! 🙂

Nugget’s gravatar

Don’t let yourself get abused by your little brother. He’s acting like he’s so much better than you and that you don’t even deserve to talk to him. He’s your brother, for god’s sake. Your mom should listen to you.

I’m not sure if part of this has to do with male teenage hormones, either. 😛 If I were you, I would’ve already punched the bastard.

Liz’s gravatar

If I could, I would have done so already, too. Blah. It’s fine. I decided to just keep annoying him. 🙂

Lilly’s gravatar

He’s 14! He can’t get away with that kind of attitude. He could become abusive, and it’s not fair to you that your brother has to be like that. You all need to talk about the issue together. Is there a way for you to move out? I’m not suggesting it, but you may consider it. You do need your own life and if he’s going to be trying to ruin it, then maybe it would be an idea. First talk it out with everyone present. Please don’t let this get you down, you don’t deserve to be so unhappy. I hope it all works out better in the end. Keep us posted.

Liz’s gravatar

Thanks! Things are better, just not yet fully. :()

Liz’s gravatar

@Jennifer,

Things have turned out a little better, I suppose, if you take away my blunder last night when I didn’t even realize what I’d said until it happened. -.- Anyway, I have a new motto now… It’s all over my Twitter. 😛

Esme’s gravatar

That sucks how your mum doesn’t listen, mine doesn’t really either when I argue with my sister, so I know how you feel. It’s really annoying and frustrating 🙁
I think with your brother, just ignore him, I think that’s the best thing to do, because obviously talking to him won’t do anything except him being rude to you. You don’t deserve to be treated like that.

Liz’s gravatar

I’ve honestly been ignoring and annoying him more – on purpose! 😀

Liz’s gravatar

@Gabi,
I actually told her just recently, and she has been catching what seems like everything… It’s pretty great. <3

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