In the “old days” of blogging, people apologized for not posting. Er, I did. When I see it now, I don’t understand the point… I don’t owe it to anyone1 to blog, and if I apologize, chances of me actually posting when I say I will post are extremely slim, because it’s an empty promise.
Offline, I despise making promises even more, because I’m often pushed into those things, meaning I didn’t have much say—it was practically a requirement to avoid some sort of lecture revolving around me not promising whatever it was I was supposed to promise. It’s empty, and it’s not fair of someone else to request me to promise blank, because sometimes I have other things planned that aren’t going to work with that promise—I’m going to be doing something else, because I’ve spent a year or however long planning it out, and I’m going to be putting my energy into that to make it work, and I won’t be able to focus on the promise I made to someone.
And if I’m held accountable for breaking that promise? If you back me into a corner and don’t give me another exit, I’m going to say whatever I can to freaking please you just so I can hopefully find an exit in the conversation, especially if you and I believe in two different things that are polar opposites of each other.
I don’t want to be expected to please people. I don’t live/do things to please others; I need to be good enough for me.