There are some things that make a person what they are. Bloggers may be what they blog, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that their blog depicts their worth. This is my somewhat-miniature rant about what self worth is to me, what determines my self worth and how [my] self worth should be calculated.
I think a lot of people judge others based on what they think that they are worth. Self worth is what one’s self determines; we do not hold the right to actually label and distinguish someone’s self worth. Most of what is listed below is based on what has broken me in the past, and they do still break me today. Some parts are also said because of the way society treats others.
My self worth is not determined by my looks; whether I am pretty or ugly to others is not something that either increases or decreases my self worth. I am more than the glasses I wear, the dark brown hair with natural red highlights that breeds through my scalp, my fingernails that I chew to the bits out of habit. I am more than that; there is more to me than that,
My self worth should not depend on the job I have, the money I make and/or the position I am in. If, however, I love my career, then that is a plus and possibly applicable in determining my self worth.
My self worth should not depend on what I am wanting to do, working on doing and/or how I’m working on getting there. Whether I am in school does not pay an important part to determining my self worth.
My self worth should not depend on my current mental health, any disorders/syndromes/malformalities I may or may not have and/or whatever treatment I am or am not receiving at the time. This includes medications and behaviors that come with such mental health as well. My self worth isn’t determined by this.
My self worth should not be based on my sexual orientation, who I am dating, who I would like to date, who I have dated and/or how I seem in my relationships, be they in the past, present and/or future. It should also not depend on if I am cheated on, as that is not my problem. I, however, will never cheat, so I feel no need to mention that here for my self worth calculation. Therefore, if I do, I will analyze it as I see fit when/if such a time comes.
My self worth should not be based on my past, how I lived in the past and/or what I did in the past. It should not be based on what certain family members think of me and/or whether others choose to believe what I say.
My self worth should not depend on how much of a bitch people happen to perceive me as, nor how nice and sweet.
My self worth should also not be based upon what I say/do whenever I am mad and/or upset, when I am at my weakest, etc… It isn’t necessarily based on how I act, think or feel.
There’s more to me than what society finds important!
And although I don’t personally believe this at the moment to the point that I can tell someone, “Hey, that bit about me isn’t what defines me and shows my worth,” I’d like to think that someday I will get to that point.
What society needs to realize is that the pedestal in which we put a person other than ourselves is not necessarily the pedestal said person puts themselves on. It’s stressful to be put on a pedestal that I have been pressured so much to take responsibility for/on and live up to.
So maybe there’s someone out there who will read this, and maybe it will help them. However, at this moment in time, it does not help me.
How is or isn’t your self worth calculated? How do you feel your self worth should be calculated?