I don’t think it’s wrong to not say “thank you” to someone if I don’t think they’ve done anything for me. I also don’t think it’s wrong to not say “thank you” if I don’t feel thankful – or even if I’m not thankful. I don’t find not saying “thank you” and/or “I’m sorry” when I’m not sorry/thankful rude. I mean, if I were to say “thank you”, that would cause the person I am thanking to think I am thankful for what he or she has does. But if I do not say “thank you”, I must be the rudest person on Earth.
Society has changed so much within the passed few years, and so has the way everyone communicates. Everything has such a different meaning and can be translated in a different way.
Speech class makes communication seem like this big, easy thing for anyone – it’s not that simple. As I said two posts ago, I can’t just walk up to some random person like I could at Trinity and ask them if they want to hang out because they don’t seem to want to socialize outside of the classroom.
But that really isn’t my point. I guess it has something to do with my point, but what I’m really trying to say is…
If you are not thankful, it is not rude to not say “thank you”.
If you are not sorry, it is not rude to not say “sorry”.
The sorry can be argued a lot more than what I am arguing it, though. It’s just … if you say you’re sorry, and you’re not truly sorry, you’re lying. But if an elder (guardian, mom, dad, grandmother, teacher, etc.) tells you to say “I’m sorry” to someone, and you’re not sorry, they basically telling you to lie.
But if it’s the polite thing to do at the time, then you should do it. I’m not going back on my “it’s not rude” remark, but I do think that sometimes those two phrases should be said. But it shouldn’t, either, because it could hurt someone. But if you don’t say it, you could hurt someone that way as well.
Ugh. It’s all got to be so complicated!
I could write more of this, but all that good thinking up there happened this morning, at about 2:30am. I’m sorry to say that it is gone and that I’d planned on having more to say. But it’s gone. And I really am sorry!