I feel childish blogging about this, but I think it’s really important to maintain a relationship with my mom and my dad – and hopefully a positive one.
Without kids, I got to spend some time with my mom. She was sitting outside in the Explorer (the trunk thing1 was open, and we were facing the backyard). It was quiet and relaxing, and the moon was out. I had walked out there with her soon after the kids (Carrie and Patrick) got up because it was so loud, and I didn’t want to deal with the noise.
Whether Lard believes in it or not, I think mothers and daughters should be friends. In order to have trust in each other and be able to hang out together, they have to be friends. Just because my mom is my mom doesn’t mean she can’t be my friend, too. There will always be times when she has to step in and be motherly to me, but it doesn’t mean she cannot keep being my friend.
It makes me feel really sad when he “corrects” me and denies what I believe. Just because I don’t agree with his beliefs does not mean I cannot have my own. He’s told me why mothers and daughters can’t be friends before, but I honestly can’t care less about his explanation. I don’t even bring it up anymore because it hurts me so much whenever he says that. Why can they not be friends? That’s like saying my dad can’t be my friend – or like saying Alice can’t be my sister.
“a person you know well and regard with affection and trust” [source]
Although this is merely one definition, I don’t see it saying I cannot be friends with my mom.
I guess all that matters is that I finally got the chance to spend time with her away from everyone else and just talk. Even if we wouldn’t have talked, it would have still been nice. I still miss hanging out with her like I did last year, but spending time with her tonight meant a lot to me. I love my mom, and this was the first time in a long time that I got to spend time with her. I hope I get to do it again sometime soon.
- I know hardly anything about vehicles. ↩