When someone does something to anger you, do you stay mad at them, or do you forgive and forget right off the bat?
I don’t always forgive them right away; I think I have a little anger toward them afterward. Or, perhaps I do forgive them, but I still stay a little mad at them. Sometimes I will stay quiet for a while, sometimes I will leave them alone, sometimes I will ignore them – whatever it takes for me to not burst into a billion flames that lust for dry grass to walk around on.
Some people forgive and forget quickly – no matter the reason for their anger – and that does not make sense to me. If something they did made you mad, should you not tell them? It is not healthy to keep feelings bottled up, especially if they made you mad enough to bake up a storm of cookies.
I think the person should be confronted, and a compromise of some sort to prevent such thing from angering the other again should be made.
Then there are the people that sit in denial and do not listen to a word you say because they think and truly believe in their hearts that they were right. That is when you do not receive an apology.
Ring, ring. “Hello, Fight! How may you me and [insert person here] today?” [pause] “Oh, by making us say even more hurtful things to each other?! OKAY!”
How do you handle your anger? Do you let yourself become violent, or do you walk away before you do anything you know you will regret later?
I do not hold grudges, but I do tend to stay mad at people before apologizing. I have not been extremely angry lately, but I do feel a nudge of hurt from time to time.